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10 Ways to Put Sizzle Back in Your Relationship
by Patricia Fason
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It seems that no matter
how much we love someone, and how deeply we are committed, keeping the sizzle
alive in a relationship takes a little work. Here are ten ways you can help
ignite the flame that was there when you first got together.
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Don't take your relationship for granted. Everyone is guilty of this.
Time passes, we assume our partner will always be with us. We have gotten used
to the things they do for us that in the beginning seemed special. Every so
often it is a good idea to remind yourself of the good things this person has
brought into your life. Appreciation for your partner strengthens the bond
between you and a strong bond naturally leads to intimacy.
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Spend time together doing something you both enjoy. This is always a good
idea as it builds stronger bonds which promote intimacy. This may seem obvious
but sometimes we get so busy, we forget to do the basic things that make a
relationship strong. Along with this one comes communication. Communicating your
feelings and desires to your partner is very important.
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Set the mood. Dim the lights, light candles,
have soft, seductive music playing in the background.
Share a romantic dinner. Light a fire and curl up together. Flirt. Do different
things to make the atmosphere conducive to romance.
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Lingerie. New lingerie for him or her can add
a little spice. Once a week, make the effort to look your best and put on
something seductive. Your partner will appreciate the effort.
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Full body massages. One week he gets a full body massage, the next week
she does. You will look forward to that night.
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Fantasies. Fantasizing is normal. If there is a fantasy that you have
that involves your partner, tell him/her. Women generally have a harder time
doing this then men do, but ladies, most men are excited by the idea that you
fantasize about them.
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Play games. You can turn any game into one that will lead to intimacy.
Make a wager at the start of the game and each of you state what you want if you
win. Nothing is out of bounds as long as the two of you agree.
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Role Playing. Although you may feel a little silly at first, this can be
quite exciting. Have him dress up like a fireman. Have her wear the French maid's outfit. Whatever you can
think of.
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Light Bondage. No I'm not talking about whips and chains, however, padded
handcuffs, a blindfold, or simply tying your hands together with pantyhose can
add a new dimension to your love life. Letting your partner have complete
control, or you having complete control over them can be exciting.
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Write a steamy story. Write a story with you and your partner as the main
characters. Let your imagination go. Read your story to your partner.
Most things require some effort on your part to be
successful. Often we sit back and wait for our partner to do the work,
justifying it by thinking we've already done more than our fair share.. It is
important to remember that investing a little effort will often result in a big
payoff which will make the both of you happy. |
©Patricia Fason |
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